Comments on: 10 Steps to VBAC Success http://vbac.angelahoy.com/2007/04/04/10-steps-to-vbac-success/ A diary of one expecting family's struggle over the local medical community's refusal to perform VBACs (Vaginal Birth After Cesarean). Thu, 02 Feb 2012 01:18:32 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Christian Louboutin sale http://vbac.angelahoy.com/2007/04/04/10-steps-to-vbac-success/comment-page-1/#comment-20081 Christian Louboutin sale Thu, 12 Jan 2012 00:50:14 +0000 http://vbac.angelahoy.com/2007/04/04/10-steps-to-vbac-success/#comment-20081 A man can fail many times, but he isn't a failure until he begins to blame somebody else. A man can fail many times, but he isn’t a failure until he begins to blame somebody else.

]]> By: Rachael http://vbac.angelahoy.com/2007/04/04/10-steps-to-vbac-success/comment-page-1/#comment-18121 Rachael Fri, 19 Aug 2011 02:16:57 +0000 http://vbac.angelahoy.com/2007/04/04/10-steps-to-vbac-success/#comment-18121 I am so frustrated. My doctor, who led us to believe that he was able to deliver us VBAC, pulled a bait and switch on us at 37 weeks pregnant. Now, after so much resistance and talk of dead baby, dead mommy if we attempt this, he is refusing to cancel the C-Section date he forced us to make. In fact he won't even allow us to make it to our expected due date. He's stating that the OR is booked and it would be really harmful to the baby to wait beyond the due date for delivery. I have been stripped of my opportunity to have a vaginal birth and am so tired of fighting when he holds all of the cards. I recognize at this stage of the game there isn't anything we can do and a power struggle would be futile. My right to even try was taken from me and I feel really defeated. Not sure what to do now that I'm 39 weeks pregnant. I am so frustrated. My doctor, who led us to believe that he was able to deliver us VBAC, pulled a bait and switch on us at 37 weeks pregnant. Now, after so much resistance and talk of dead baby, dead mommy if we attempt this, he is refusing to cancel the C-Section date he forced us to make. In fact he won’t even allow us to make it to our expected due date. He’s stating that the OR is booked and it would be really harmful to the baby to wait beyond the due date for delivery. I have been stripped of my opportunity to have a vaginal birth and am so tired of fighting when he holds all of the cards. I recognize at this stage of the game there isn’t anything we can do and a power struggle would be futile. My right to even try was taken from me and I feel really defeated. Not sure what to do now that I’m 39 weeks pregnant.

]]> By: Lauren http://vbac.angelahoy.com/2007/04/04/10-steps-to-vbac-success/comment-page-1/#comment-14260 Lauren Mon, 25 Oct 2010 21:52:03 +0000 http://vbac.angelahoy.com/2007/04/04/10-steps-to-vbac-success/#comment-14260 Hello Everyone, this is so helpful yet confusing when you hear about those who have attempted vbac and have failed. With my first child I was induced on my due date. Never wanted to be induced but family and doctor encouraged due to possible "Big Baby". Upon arrival at the hospital I had to take that horrible stuff to cleanse my bowels, which took 3 hours. Around 3 am they induced me with pitocin, at 3 pm I was only at 4 cm and the doctor proclaimed I wasn't progressing fast enough and needed a c-section. Confused and vulnerable I rejected and asked for an epidoral, which was a big step for a person not wanting any intervention, the doctor refused and said I needed the c-section instead. I planned on no drugs, no c-section and told him that from the beginning, but when he went in the hall with the nurses and my family, he said he never knew and would have never induced me if he had known. I could hear everything! The baby and I were both doing fine, no complications. He rushed us from the begining and I ended up going for the c-section at 4 because everyone was getting upset and I felt as if things were out of my control and under his control. It was horrible and I still have these raging feelings where I actually find myself not forgiving the doctor for this horrible experience and I actually want to harm him but revenge is the Lords. I laugh at this statement because when I look at my son, he is healthy and beautiful so I should be happy about that! BUT, I get so depressed about the entire situation. The doctor proclaimed that I could have a VBAC with my next child but I'm overweight and thats one disadvantage. I just stopped breastfeeding my 20 month old, have been working on the weight issue and just took a pregnancy test and found that I was pregnant again. I really need support and don't know where to go. I haven't went to a doctor because I don't want to hear another doctor discourage me from having a VBAC. When I went for my yearly a few months ago, of course to a new doctor before this pregnancy, he said it was possible but hardly supported and gave me all the disadvantages. I need support and words of encouragement. NO negativity because I already no the risk! I'm just praying God leads me the right way and I put my trust in him and learn my body. Searching for a doctor, midwife, doula that will be supportive of my wishes. Any ideas of where to start? Hello Everyone, this is so helpful yet confusing when you hear about those who have attempted vbac and have failed. With my first child I was induced on my due date. Never wanted to be induced but family and doctor encouraged due to possible “Big Baby”. Upon arrival at the hospital I had to take that horrible stuff to cleanse my bowels, which took 3 hours. Around 3 am they induced me with pitocin, at 3 pm I was only at 4 cm and the doctor proclaimed I wasn’t progressing fast enough and needed a c-section. Confused and vulnerable I rejected and asked for an epidoral, which was a big step for a person not wanting any intervention, the doctor refused and said I needed the c-section instead. I planned on no drugs, no c-section and told him that from the beginning, but when he went in the hall with the nurses and my family, he said he never knew and would have never induced me if he had known. I could hear everything! The baby and I were both doing fine, no complications. He rushed us from the begining and I ended up going for the c-section at 4 because everyone was getting upset and I felt as if things were out of my control and under his control. It was horrible and I still have these raging feelings where I actually find myself not forgiving the doctor for this horrible experience and I actually want to harm him but revenge is the Lords. I laugh at this statement because when I look at my son, he is healthy and beautiful so I should be happy about that! BUT, I get so depressed about the entire situation. The doctor proclaimed that I could have a VBAC with my next child but I’m overweight and thats one disadvantage. I just stopped breastfeeding my 20 month old, have been working on the weight issue and just took a pregnancy test and found that I was pregnant again. I really need support and don’t know where to go. I haven’t went to a doctor because I don’t want to hear another doctor discourage me from having a VBAC. When I went for my yearly a few months ago, of course to a new doctor before this pregnancy, he said it was possible but hardly supported and gave me all the disadvantages. I need support and words of encouragement. NO negativity because I already no the risk! I’m just praying God leads me the right way and I put my trust in him and learn my body. Searching for a doctor, midwife, doula that will be supportive of my wishes. Any ideas of where to start?

]]> By: Jennifer http://vbac.angelahoy.com/2007/04/04/10-steps-to-vbac-success/comment-page-1/#comment-10240 Jennifer Wed, 17 Jun 2009 19:53:00 +0000 http://vbac.angelahoy.com/2007/04/04/10-steps-to-vbac-success/#comment-10240 I had to have an emergency c-section with my first. I was about a week over due; my OB wanted to induce on my due date, but I wanted for things to happen on their own. I went in to the hospital having sparatic contractions but mainly just very uncomfortable and not feeling right. After being checked and having no change since my last appointment I was told I could go home or go walk. I walked. My water broke on the way back upstairs; I didn't know what it was... anyway, I stayed. I hadn't planned on an epidural but got one, b/c I was so tired. Then they started pit. - and evetually that babies heart beat would drop with each contraction. So at 1:30am the doctor on call (who I NEVER saw) said c-section; baby came at 1:59am. I was disappointed, but SO happy he was ok. Baby #2. I begged for a VBAC and nobody in the practice would go for it (I've since learned that their insurance won't allow it). So I went to every other doctor in the city - one said I could try but wasn't encouraging. So I ended up with another c-section. Surprise: Baby #3. I had it in my mind that I would have another c-section, but at an appointment for my youngest, the pediatrician was asking about Baby 3's dues date, etc. -- and said that if I wanted a VBAC to find a doctor who truly supported me; even if I had to go somewhere else. I called my former dr in another town and they support VBACs; I have an appointment Monday to see if I qualify. I SO hope I do, but I mostly want a healthy baby! I just don't want to keep being sad about not experiencing a birth --- I've never given birth; my doctors have. My turn.... maybe. I just want the change to try again, even if I have to have a c-section in the end. And I know the risks and I also know about the disabilities that can come from it; I have taught special education for 5 years. But I know there are risks either way and God will be in control however the baby comes. Wish Me Luck! I had to have an emergency c-section with my first. I was about a week over due; my OB wanted to induce on my due date, but I wanted for things to happen on their own. I went in to the hospital having sparatic contractions but mainly just very uncomfortable and not feeling right.

After being checked and having no change since my last appointment I was told I could go home or go walk. I walked. My water broke on the way back upstairs; I didn’t know what it was… anyway, I stayed. I hadn’t planned on an epidural but got one, b/c I was so tired. Then they started pit. – and evetually that babies heart beat would drop with each contraction. So at 1:30am the doctor on call (who I NEVER saw) said c-section; baby came at 1:59am. I was disappointed, but SO happy he was ok.

Baby #2. I begged for a VBAC and nobody in the practice would go for it (I’ve since learned that their insurance won’t allow it). So I went to every other doctor in the city – one said I could try but wasn’t encouraging. So I ended up with another c-section.

Surprise: Baby #3. I had it in my mind that I would have another c-section, but at an appointment for my youngest, the pediatrician was asking about Baby 3′s dues date, etc. — and said that if I wanted a VBAC to find a doctor who truly supported me; even if I had to go somewhere else.

I called my former dr in another town and they support VBACs; I have an appointment Monday to see if I qualify. I SO hope I do, but I mostly want a healthy baby! I just don’t want to keep being sad about not experiencing a birth — I’ve never given birth; my doctors have. My turn…. maybe.

I just want the change to try again, even if I have to have a c-section in the end. And I know the risks and I also know about the disabilities that can come from it; I have taught special education for 5 years. But I know there are risks either way and God will be in control however the baby comes.

Wish Me Luck!

]]> By: Sarah http://vbac.angelahoy.com/2007/04/04/10-steps-to-vbac-success/comment-page-1/#comment-9856 Sarah Tue, 07 Apr 2009 09:45:57 +0000 http://vbac.angelahoy.com/2007/04/04/10-steps-to-vbac-success/#comment-9856 I'm glad I found this site. I'm 2 days overdue and planning a vbac. My first was born section after 2 days attempted induction (I'm a determined sucker) for preeclampsia. I'm one of those women pit does nothing for. Two of the four obs I see now are unsupportive and the lady doc has never been even cordial to me. She has amazingly seen me twice and the second visit was so awful (full of scare tactics, threats and putdowns) that I canceled my next appt with her. Today I'm seeing one of her partners whom I like and who has been very understanding. If he shows any signs of not being supportive today, I will probably see about going to The Farm. I only live about 4 hrs away and have already found out they will take me because I am a good candidate for vbac. To all who have experienced uterine rupture during a vbac I am so sorry. I can't imagine what you went through and wish you all the best. But I can't help noticing how many of you were chemically induced! Seems like time to prosecute some docs IMO since if they do vbacs they should know rupture is much more likely with induction! And to all considering vbac like me, I say do your research, choose your risks (there are more and many are severe with sections too) make sure you're low risk and do what you know is right for you no matter what anyone says! Best to all! I’m glad I found this site. I’m 2 days overdue and planning a vbac. My first was born section after 2 days attempted induction (I’m a determined sucker) for preeclampsia. I’m one of those women pit does nothing for.

Two of the four obs I see now are unsupportive and the lady doc has never been even cordial to me. She has amazingly seen me twice and the second visit was so awful (full of scare tactics, threats and putdowns) that I canceled my next appt with her. Today I’m seeing one of her partners whom I like and who has been very understanding. If he shows any signs of not being supportive today, I will probably see about going to The Farm. I only live about 4 hrs away and have already found out they will take me because I am a good candidate for vbac.

To all who have experienced uterine rupture during a vbac I am so sorry. I can’t imagine what you went through and wish you all the best. But I can’t help noticing how many of you were chemically induced! Seems like time to prosecute some docs IMO since if they do vbacs they should know rupture is much more likely with induction!

And to all considering vbac like me, I say do your research, choose your risks (there are more and many are severe with sections too) make sure you’re low risk and do what you know is right for you no matter what anyone says!

Best to all!

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